Straight couples really have the easy life, though I am not saying that keeping the relationship alive is easy (because its not...!), I am just saying that there are at least new levels that they can look forward to.
For gay couples in contrary, there aren’t such “levels” that they can look forward to. Gay couples can’t say that they will get married, get a house, children, put them to school, education standards, work, grandchildren etc “til death separates” them. I mean, it can happen for gay couples, but only in certain countries. Right now, I am talking about Singapore, where nothing of all the above mentioned is possible. Maybe the house, but that’s about it. And maybe getting a pet instead of having children, I assume.
To me, at this very moment, I think that having a gay relationship here in Singapore, is more a matter of a “dating maintenance”, as I shall call it, than having “diverse levels of life”.
Keeping a gay relationship alive, takes so much more effort into consideration, it is not funny at all. It’s seriously a lot of hard work and constant creativity. [by the way, this may explain the great amount of gay people being involved in the creative media industry..., but that’s besides the point...]
Question:
How do you keep a gay relationship alive and exciting?
How do you keep something alive in a country so small, where you have done everything at least twice already in a 2 years’ relationship. How do you maintain this “excitement”? How can you keep someone close to you, if everything exciting is already done? Do you repeat the whole process by closing one eye and say: “What the hell, just do it all over again.” ?! or you try to invent something... AGAIN?
This is a serious question. Answers are welcome.
1 comment:
I have never been in a straight relationship before, so naturally I am not in a position to talk about that. But, I could tell you about the homosexual part of the story.
To be honest, as in the case of relationships, I get bored really easily, which explains why I have had so many relationships since I was 13.
Just as what you have said, straight couples seem to have a common standard to follow, and new levels to climb to, but gay/lesbian couples seem to be able to date and date and date for the entirety of their relationship without getting anywhere.
It's basically a cycle that runs as follows:
- Take a liking to each other.
- Go on dates.
- Spend time together.
- Move in. (If the case arises)
- Back to monotonous life.
In between, there will be the occasional fights and stuff.
Not forgetting the sexual part of the relationship.
It gets pathetically boring after awhile, resulting in 'lesbian/gay death bed.'
But, I suppose, it could work, with, more surprises in life.
I am not exactly sure how, but I am sure there could be a way. I am puzzled too, in that sense.
You could tell me, if you think of some.
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